Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: If you can slowly start to detach yourself from from any material things, anything outside of the world that's not always already inside of you, of who your true nature and being is, you can attach yourself to trying to make everyone else happy. You can attach yourself to how other people feel about you and find your true worth is completely in love and kindness and peace and light. Then you're going to come into your true self.
[00:00:33] Speaker B: SA welcome to Super Normalize the podcast where we challenge the conventional, break boundaries, and normalize the seemingly supernatural. Join me, C.J. barnaby, in the liminalist space to explore less charted realms of existence and to unravel the mysteries of life experience. Each episode I'm blessed with the opportunity to talk to regular people from across the world where they openly share their understanding and wisdom in service to others. If you're looking to upgrade your life, you've come to the right place. Be sure to like and subscribe and I'll bring you great transforming conversations each week. My treasured viewers and listeners. If you have a life story or healing modality or unique knowledge you'd love to share, reach out to me at supernormalized Roton me. Let's together embrace acceptance of the supernatural and unusual. What it really is completely normal. Today on Super Normalized, I have the guest Alicia Faricelli, a transformational coach whose journey from a challenging childhood to helping others discover their self worth is nothing short of inspiring. Alicia's deep insights into overcoming trauma through inner child work, healing, meditation and building self worth have equipped her with valuable tools she now shares with her clients.
In this episode we explore her personal experiences, learn practical strategies for emotional healing, and find out how she empowers individuals to break free of their limitations.
Watch or listen all the way to the end as we uncover the profound impact of inner work on achieving fulfillment and success while looking forward to actionable takeaways that can spark our own paths to transformation.
Welcome to Super Normalized. Alicia Faricelli. Alicia, you are a transformational coach and you've had a journey which actually stemmed from a challenging childhood.
Do you want to tell us all about that? And actually how did those experiences shape your understanding of your self worth? And welcome to the show.
[00:03:22] Speaker A: Well, thank you. I'm so excited to be here. Yeah, super, super excited to share this afternoon and tell our listeners all about my journey and health, the way that I help people. So yeah, so I like to take people back to my childhood being. I was born into a super religious, super conservative, very hellfire damage and fear based mentality is what I was born into from my mother's womb on end. So that with that brought the challenges of being a super, like a timid. I was a very timid, shy, really kind of scared, high anxiety child all the time. I never felt like I quite fit into different areas, different things in my life. But I was always so afraid of every single thing. And so that kind of drove, drove into, you know, teenage years of doing some rebellion. I'm doing some things that you know, my parents brought a lot of shame to up on my. My parents like my very. A lot of things I did brought shame into my family.
And the guilt and shame stayed with me for a long, long, long, long time. And so getting into my early 20s, I was married, had two children, very, very, very young and then divorced before the age of 30. And then took more shame and guilt for my parents coming back in over that because of their religious background. And so as I was trying, you know, struggling with a single momhood, starting businesses and working corporate jobs on and off throughout the time, I was really just struggling. I was, I mean I had like no self worth. And I say self esteem is that self esteem was kind of up and down, but I had no self worth. I didn't have any, any. I had passions, but I didn't think I had confidence to be able to do anything. And so I would start businesses and I would burn myself out. Even they were successful. So it got to the point I was probably around 35, 36 years old and I about 10 years ago and I decided that I couldn't take anymore. It's like I'm done. Like I'm either this is done and then like ending my life or else something's gonna have to change. So I literally set out per up to the universe. I was like, okay, I can't do this anymore. And I still had that fundamental Christian, not this quite fear based mindset, but just had a lot, a lot of the fear still put inside of me at this time. But things started to just flip around. I started to see new, new, new things come into my life, new perspectives. As I was, you know, kind of dealing through this. I started really the healing process, I would say really started. Then started getting into a lot of reading, a lot of self development, starting into podcast, all kinds of different things, courses I can get my hands on. And so as I was going through this time, I at the end of say about several years ago, I decided that I wanted to do business coaching and lead the real estate. My real estate career or Put it on the hold a little bit. So as I was doing that, I wanted to go into business coaching and I had this mindset belief that, you know what, I want to do this, but I haven't had multimillion dollar businesses. And I was like, that's such, you know, just BS, Alicia, because you know what, you know how to do all these things. That's just a limiting belief and you're going to walk your clients through it. So I started getting client talking to clients and they were like, well, they, I don't think I, you know, what's your thing? Do you think you can able to do this? I don't really know. I don't think I have what it takes. It's like, oh, wow, okay, we gotta stop and go back and do some mindset work. So about that time, I was like, I should probably do some more mindset work myself. So hired my own coach, worked with her in 90 days. She actually introduced me to energy work, breath work, meditation, all the modalities that within 90 days started to release and break up these energetic things inside of my body. And I started to be able to really start to fully or start to more deeply heal. And so as I was healing and I was, you know, working my clients, working with them too, started adding on energy work, got Reiki master, did all kinds of all different energy modalities, trained in those. So as I was going through that, changing the breath work and meditation, I was like, there's still something that's missing inside of me. I feel like there's a missing piece here. And it's funny how the universe works. It's like, okay, Alicia, here's inner child healing. And so inner child healing stepped in. And so I was like, what is this? I'd heard the term, you know, based in college when I was taking, you know, psychology classes, I had heard the term, you know, reading books and doing some self development, but I didn't really understand it. So I started diving deep into it, doing a lot of journaling, meditation, a lot of energy healing around that for myself, and a lot of calling in, you know, divine guides and spirits. And so as I was doing that and some shadow work alongside, I realized it was little Alicia inside of me that was broken, that was. Didn't feel safe, didn't feel loved, didn't feel unconditionally loved. And I needed to give that to her. So I started working with her and started to give those modalities to her, started to show her kindness, started to listen to her because she was never listened to before. She was. Her feelings were never validated. So I started validating her feelings, started accepting those feelings and starting letting her know that I'm now her new parent, but she can forget whatever she had before going on that I'm now going to parent her. So when I started to do that, I started to see creativity thrive. I started to see a business thrive. I started to see all areas of my relationships, every single thing started to thrive. I started seeing people differently. I started to be able to interact with people differently. All because I started to tie that modality, started to tie that little Alicia, started to heal her, that my life started thriving. Now is it every little piece of the puzzle, puzzle still in there? I mean, that's part of life. I'm going throughout life. It's going to continue on and on and there's more healing until I. The day that I. I'm in with this journey of this current life. So, yeah, that's my story of how I got to what I'm doing now.
[00:08:57] Speaker B: Well, that's. That's a neat summary and synopsis of what happens.
[00:09:01] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:09:03] Speaker B: So I just. Rolling back there, did it feel like you're under a lot of pressure during all that time?
[00:09:09] Speaker A: Absolutely. I feel like I've been under pressure since the day I was born.
[00:09:13] Speaker B: Right, right.
[00:09:14] Speaker A: I was, yeah.
[00:09:16] Speaker B: Yeah. So what, what, how did you actually deal with that pressure? I mean, what were you doing as a child, for example?
[00:09:23] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean, I was just scared and anxious. My dad was a preacher, so I had the pressures of a preachers. You had the perfection. Not only perfection, but the perfection within the certain religious situation that they were in that we had to be perfect or else there was huge consequences to pay. So that was a lot of my anxiety and just the abnormal of the nerve that was happening throughout my childhood was derived to that. I mean, I don't. How I coped was just, I don't know, I shying away, getting deeping down and just becoming this little shy, timid child that stayed inside of me the entire time. When I got into my adolescent years, about 14 or 15, I just started rebelling. I started doing whatever I decided I wanted to do because I can't earn the, you know, appreciation or the love for my parents that I wasn't feeling unconscious. I'm talking unconditional love then. And I didn't fit into anyone else. I found the people I fit in in with. And so I started to dabble in, you know, just things that probably weren't. I would say no Almost normal teenage stuff, you know, drinking, light drugs, this type of thing. And so I gotta dabble into that, that sort of thing. And it took me on a really roller coaster path in my life.
Put a lot, brought a lot, like a lot of guilt and shame which piled on top of whatever guilt and shame I'd had just for being born into this family of their, you know, childhood. I don't say it's bully situations but just the way kids treat other people, you know, having. I didn't know how to socialize those skills. I didn't know how to, I didn't know how to interact with those skills and how to really stand up for myself because I always felt shy and timid. So as I got into, you know, into adulthood, it just turned into this. I have to do everything. I'm not, I'm not good enough. I have to keep going. I have to keep doing more and more and more and more and more. And it never ended until I made that decision and I started to heal that process and realized that my self worth is not tied into how much I'm doing or how much I'm accomplishing in life. It's tied into just my inner being, who I am already have that worth. So that was the biggest key thing for that.
[00:11:30] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. Sounds like part of the strategy was abandoning the inner child just to cope with it all.
[00:11:37] Speaker A: Yeah, I had to. I mean it's the reason why we have those coping skills. We have those skills is to keep us protected because at that age we don't, we don't have the mental capacity, the emotional capacity to deal with adult things.
[00:11:50] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:11:50] Speaker A: And so we, we just decartonalize these things subconsciously into our brains and just kind of move on with the world.
[00:11:57] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. It's the only way to survive sometimes because the, yeah. All the pressure is so much and the drama is so much as well. It's like you don't know how to place yourself in that and, or why it's happening. Often you're like, I don't know what's going on.
[00:12:10] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:12:11] Speaker B: You know, as a child, you know, you're like, I don't know why these people are acting so crazy.
[00:12:16] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't know why that they have to. Yeah. I don't understand why I'm, you know, if I do this thing, it's going to put me into this internal damnation of hell that I'm never going to be able to get out of. And it's like, yeah, just the fear. I didn't understand why everybody was so fearful.
[00:12:29] Speaker B: Yeah, I wonder why that they pass on that fear game. You know, it's like what happened to them.
[00:12:37] Speaker A: Lots of, lots of inner child wounds.
[00:12:40] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:12:41] Speaker A: Unfortunately it's a generational thing for me. Yeah, yeah. I was born. Yeah.
[00:12:45] Speaker B: Well, it's good that you've actually broken that generational curse by becoming more aware of yourself and starting to assist you in a child with the shadow work and bringing it all back together and integrating yourself. That's fantastic.
So what are the significant turning points in your journey towards healing after becoming a single mother?
[00:13:05] Speaker A: It was. I was so stressed out and I was doing everything and I had no physical energy, I had no mental energy. I was at the. And I think this was around the time I had event. I started an event company and I started this event company because I couldn't find a job in events and I wanted to work in events but I didn't have enough experience in events. So I was like, you know what, I'm just going to do it myself. Which has always pulled me mentality, which is very positive. It got me a lot of ways and sometimes it's not so good because I've been kind of more self sufficient. So as I was doing that and building this company and it grew very, very quickly and over a course of even like the last two years I had it like just expanded very quickly to where I was working so many hours a week and making this very. My profit levels were so low, but the company was bringing in a lot of money, but it was just the profitability levels and having to chase like wait for. I was literally forking out tens of thousands of dollars a month and then having to hope that it came back in time for me to be able to do the next $10,000 the next month for the ongoing clients I had. And so it was extremely stressful. And so once I hit that point I was like, I'm done. Like, I cannot do any more of this. Like there's something has to change. Like something. And I still continue to, to run the company. And then I started about, probably about a year later I decided to, to start leveling it off, started letting some clients go that were not aligned up with the vision of whatever I was doing. And then eventually worked myself out of it and worked myself back in, into, you know, a very lucrative real estate company. But I was still doing the same thing. I was still hustle, hustle, hustle, make it happen. Hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle. And I'm not good enough unless I'm reaching these goals that I hit or I'm reaching these sell. Selling so many homes a year or keeping up with everything else. And so that was really the thing that I couldn't do anymore. I was like, I just. At the. At the end of it, and I started.
It just kind of flipped. That switch is like, wait a minute. I'm doing all this work and I'm hitting the goals that I want, but I'm not happy with them. I'm not satisfied. Why am I not satisfied? Because I'm looking to the next 90 days instead of celebrating what I've already accomplished. And I wasn't doing it for me. I was doing it for everybody else to make every. Make Alicia look good for everyone else so everybody else will be proud of little Alicia. Little Alicia was suffering now this. I hadn't got into the inner child work, and I hadn't tied that into, and I hadn't healed little Alicia. So little Alicia was still like, you still have to do more. You're not good enough. We have to prove. Prove more. We have to do more and more and more. And imagine when you know, and you're expent on 80 hours a week, work week, and then you're. You have, you know, at a sing. My daughter was in her teenage years at the, you know, single mom at that time. I was like. I was physically, mentally split. And so I had a couple of breakdowns, emotional breakdowns, naturally, because I had to. I mean, it's naturally to have it. To have it come out. So.
[00:16:05] Speaker B: Yeah, for sure.
[00:16:05] Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, if I could go back and do what I know, the things that I know now, I don't know, I would because it's taught me how to be now.
[00:16:13] Speaker B: So wild. That's really tough.
[00:16:16] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:16:17] Speaker B: Yeah. So how did you start to discover inner child healing? I mean, you did talk about, like, an overview of it before, but can you break down the process that you were led through that actually helped you to sort of, like, formulate your own methods to work with people?
[00:16:37] Speaker A: Yeah. So I. When I did that, I did a lot of reading. I listened to a lot of podcasts, but in between this, that time, I had learned how to intuitive. Do intuitive meditation, calling in my guides and spirits to guide me. And so a little by little, I would say, what's. What's the key? What. What do I need to do? And so, like, how do I connect? And I think I probably found an inner child meditation. And that was probably my first thing that I did to connect to a little Alicia. And so once I hit that initial connection to her, I was like, oh, this is it. So when I started talking to her and I had my guides and spirits to guide me through that process and to reveal the things that. With keeping blocking. And I. I do like a layer. Deep questioning. I'm like, okay, so how am I feeling like this? Why do I feel this way? Okay, we'll explain this a little more. And what. Where is this coming from? And just keep layering it down till I get to the actual root cause. And so I had a lot of. Not visions, but a lot of memories start to pop up of things that were. Had that happened. And it was little things. It wasn't anything like majorly traumatic little things. Like, um, I'll use an example of my second grade teacher, put my name on the board.
And I cried the entire day. And I'd forgotten about this, but I went home crying to my parents and mom because I was thinking I was gonna get in trouble. But it was more the fear that I did something wrong. I don't remember. I think I was talking. Maybe I wasn't supposed to, like. But every other child in that entire room had their name on the board, so it wasn't that big of a deal. Wasn't like I got suspended or just, you know, major display of their name on the board. And so that was brought up to me through. Through meditating and connecting with my inner child was like, oh, well, this now. That's why I'm so afraid to get in trouble, to do something bad. That's where a lot of perfectionism comes from, is from this little wound. So I go. Go back into that talk to that wound. I'm like, is this wound? Was it true then? No. I wasn't really in trouble. It was just a warning.
Did it ruin my entire life now? No, it did not. And so now it's like going, now I can put that through. Does this mean that I have to be perfect the rest of my life? No. Am I perfect? No. Do I want to be perfect? You know, I really don't. So I can really start to tie and take the subconscious and tie it into the consciousness and almost rewrite. You're rewriting the living. Those belief systems that you have and making it to where it's. It's not true.
But you're doing it through emotions and through. Through what? Through the. You have to release those emotions out. So I had to release all the fear I had inside for that. For that one little wound and moment. I had to Release and sit in that for a little while, and it hurts. And it always. It hurts when you have to sit in that. But, yeah. Yeah, that's a. Yeah, the process.
[00:19:18] Speaker B: Yeah, that's a method called recapitulation. We actually go back over the process and actually release all the energy that's based around it to burn it all off, and then, you know, basically rewrite it in a better way. So that's. That's cool that you did it that way. I got to ask you, though, when you're actually sitting in that intuitive meditation and you get in contact with your guides and spirits, how did you know they're the right ones?
[00:19:40] Speaker A: I asked multiple questions, and it was a gut feeling. And I worked with them for a while. Like, this was not my first time. And I worked with enough to where they've recognized their names. They've given me kind of visuals, and I know when they. I see them come, I feel and see them.
[00:19:53] Speaker B: Oh, wow.
[00:19:54] Speaker A: They're just little things in my. And I know that I know who's showing up at this time. And that's a. A matter of working with them every single day for. For years and talking to them every single day and calling in other helpers and the way that it feels, but also putting that energy, that protection up that I don't want to call in, you know, beings that are not of my best and highest use at the time. So I use a lot of protective measures around that.
[00:20:20] Speaker B: Right, Cool. Yeah.
Yeah, that I. When I work with spirits, I actually get a lot of contact, too. And yesterday I had to do a reading with the I Ching because I have this really intense transit coming up next year, you know, astrologically. And I was just thinking about actually doing that reading, and I walked past a lamp in our house, and it just went really bright, like, whoa.
[00:20:44] Speaker A: Wow.
[00:20:46] Speaker B: Okay, this is going to be interesting. And I did the reading, and it just said, everything's so amazing. Don't worry about it.
[00:20:51] Speaker A: I was like, yeah, a funny story of one of my guys. I think she showed her face about a year and a half. Or her name. Year and a half ago. Her name was Rachel. And your audience will probably understand this. My family would not. I had. I named the first stuffed animal I had Rachel. And I was like, two or three. I didn't know anyone named Rachel before. And so what. I find that really fascinating. I was like, are you sure that's your name? And she said, yes. Like, it was like, in a very strong. You know. You know that. You know, and it's like a yes. I was like, that is so amazing. Like, I was like, that was like the fir. My, my little, you know, doll or whatever I had, I named Rachel. That was her name. And nobody could have figured out where I got the name Rachel from. And then my first grade, my best friend in first grade's name was Rachel too, which was I found really fascinating. So I have a tie with Rachel.
Like she's been there for me the entire time. I feel like.
[00:21:39] Speaker B: Yeah, nice. Part of your spirit team.
[00:21:42] Speaker A: Yeah, that's nice.
[00:21:45] Speaker B: Okay, so you actually do a daily meditation and can you share the impact that has had on your life and emotional wellbeing?
[00:21:53] Speaker A: Yes. So meditation has changed my entire life. It's changed my thought focus. I have adhd. I no longer take medication for it because the side effects and I. Not to just the process of it, it just didn't work well for me. But I'm able to meditate and to calm my brain down and focus throughout the day. And so if I start the days, I don't start meditation. It's chaotic, it's crazy and it's just, I don't feel like I'm totally in alignment. So as I meditate again, I meditate on an eastern philosophy, you know, more spiritual level, calling in assistance and help. Or as opposed to some times I'll do a guided meditation. Like I'll do a Dr. Joe Dispenza meditation when I'm needing something in or you know, something for inner child, whatever that's already, already prepared. So I'll do those occasionally. But I really love just putting music on and just tapping in and listening to what comes through for me. And so I'll spend probably sometimes 15 minutes and sometimes up to 45 minutes. Just depends on how much is flowing through. Until they say, you know, it's, it's time. Like that's what I got for you. Um, yeah, it's. It has changed my entire day. It's changed my entire life because now I have it. It's a guidance system for me. Of course, I'm the one into con, in control of this, the ship. But it's like the compass is like go this direction or go this direction. And so I have actually had my entire business plan lined up for 2020 recordings in 2024, 2025 lined up from one 15 minute meditation. They're like, this is what you're going to do. This, this and this and this and this. Don't do anything else unless, you know, it feels in alignment with this. These core principles or what you're. You're doing. And so I was like, that is fantastic. I can move about my day, I can move about my whole year and start to plan it out and everything is starting to line straight up. So that's how meditation has changed my. My life, my business has changed my relationships. My husband's become a big meditator too. It's calmed him down a lot. He's very high functioning, high d. Just, you know, high energy. And he's now more calm and collected through. Just through meditation. I think I've seen the big. I can see the biggest benefit from him. He probably sees it from me, vice versa, because we can see into each other. But I mean, I. Yeah, it's amazing the benefits to it.
[00:24:10] Speaker B: A question around that. So what sort of process do you do for your meditation? Do you actually sit still and quiet or like, is that. Is that one of your main processes?
[00:24:22] Speaker A: So I do better if I have some type of music. So I'll put on some. Some shamanic tribal meditation. Because I have, I have past roots, life supposedly in that. And I have a long story behind that. But I've always connected very highly to tribal meditative music. Sometimes I'll put on some type of, you know, megahertz beats, some different types of bio beats, but I put something calming on and I'll sit back because if I sit in silence, my brain starts to go. But that music starts to put me into a certain state of. Of mind. And so it works very well for me.
[00:24:59] Speaker B: Keeps you on track.
[00:25:00] Speaker A: Keeps me straight on track. And it doesn't interfere with my meditation. So I can get back to a. I can focus on a certain. A singular. Singular can only say thought, but singular idea or, you know, focus point. And so I'll do that and then I. Sometimes I'll. I'll light a candle, I'll do some incense if I need to, or sage. Sage the room if I need to.
And then, you know, some essential oils to really start to get all the senses in line. And I have a mask because any type of light, I'm just like squirrel. So I put a mask on. I'm like darkness. Music died. And I can get into that zone very quickly.
[00:25:38] Speaker B: Nice.
[00:25:41] Speaker A: It works for me. It doesn't work for everyone else.
[00:25:43] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure. So I got a question about. So when you started meditating and found your meditation groove, did that offer your life more resilience for stressful times?
[00:25:56] Speaker A: Yes, because I always know I have this.
It's almost like my time. I know It's I can go into this almost other world or this mindset and I can have whatever I'm dealing with to either be released through me, you know, nervous system calm down or released through to me through meta, through messages, through reassurance. And so it's really a matter of again calming my nervous system down with that but just getting into that zone. Yeah, it has definitely changed.
[00:26:31] Speaker B: Nice.
Okay, so what specific strategies do you did you implement to build your self worth and how can others apply them in their lives? I mean you've talked about meditation. That's helped a lot. Is there anything else you can give us? A bit of a pro tip.
[00:26:47] Speaker A: The key to my deviling myself worth was here healing that inner child. It really honestly 100 was once I started to heal her, I started to see the worthiness started to come back. And then the second step was, was I was tying my self worth into the amount of materialistic things I owned. The mount, the how much success I had in my businesses. I tied myself to titles. I tied myself to. I was a single mom. Now I'm a mom to adult children. Now, you know, I'm a wife. Like all this stuff, it's like I've tight had such identity tied into titles, you know, a business owner or if I had a job, it had to be like I had to be, you know, very productive in there. I had to be on the top, the top sales agents type. I tied my worth into that. And so once I decided that you know, this is really not those things can be taken away from me completely taken away in any moment. Does that make me unworthy?
No. I had and a good example is I was laid off of two jobs within six months to you know, and I lost a lot of things. I lost my apartment, I lost a lot of, you know, a lot of stuff. And so that took me and I felt very worthless at that time. But when I look back at it, it's like I was not so that was not worthless because I rebuilt myself up 10 times from that moment. So if that was what myself my worth was around that, then again that can be taken away. But then I come into, you know, going through spiritual meditation and through spiritual practices and doing a lot of, you know, spiritual really on this path of spirituality I realized that what I am is just love and light and that's truly who I am to my core being so that is my self worth. And if I am love and light to everybody and everything, then I'm worthy.
[00:28:35] Speaker B: That's a deep message.
[00:28:37] Speaker A: Yeah.
It took a while to get there, but yeah, that's where I'm at.
[00:28:43] Speaker B: Work. You've done the deep work.
[00:28:45] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:28:45] Speaker B: How does your work as a certified life coach integrate emotional healing and practical business strategies?
[00:28:53] Speaker A: Great question. So I call myself a life coach, but I think that's such an overused term. And it's because I have a life coach certification and people resign you as a life coach. I've called myself more of a mentor and I am a coach, but I'm almost your, your friend mentor. So I walk the path with you.
And so as far as a lot of the coaching I do, it ties into the inner child work, but it also ties into the things that are happening inside your, your business. So for instance, if you can't hit a certain number in your business or you're constantly feeling like you're going to, you know, lose your business, if you're on a scarcity, on the scarcity mindset, if you're constantly chasing clients that are not good matches for you and you're afraid to let those go, a lot of times tied into self or untied into inner child, which is tied into self worth too. And so once we can start tying those two together, we start to see things start to flourish in your business. A lot of times people think, well, my business is great, but my personal life is not great. But it doesn't matter. It's not affecting my business. It is absolutely affecting your business, your personal life, business relationships, all of that, your health, all of it ties together. And so that's where I come in with the life coaching is I work with people, you know, through all aspects of their life. We're going to get down to your relationships. How are relationships, you know, your personal relationships with your, your friends, your family, relationships with, you know, your community, how are all of those tied into. And then how's your health? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you not just your, your physical health, but your mental health? Are you doing things every single day that you need to be doing to, to take care of your, you know, caring for yourself? Are you, are you meditating, journaling? Are you doing whatever modalities that you need to do to get your mindset the right. In the morning? And then we take into the spiritual portion. Are you connecting by spiritual? You don't, I don't, you know, you don't have to have this deep connection to some type of religious act. It's just a knowing of there's something else out there and it could be, you know, tied into Yourself. So how can. Deeply connected are your. Is your, your spirit?
And so we start working on practices to connect your spirit to your. To your mind and body. So it's all. That's kind of the life, the life coaching practice that I use.
I don't go into. Yeah, we're going to do marketing plans today. We're going to do, you know, we're going to work on, you know, getting new clients in. No, we're going to tie in. Why are you not getting new clients? And is it something happened, of course, in your childhood, you know, and how is this affecting. Are you even taking care of your physical health? Because you're not taking your physical health. Your mental health is going to decline.
[00:31:31] Speaker B: Have you discovered common emotional barriers that your clients face and how do you help overcome these challenges?
[00:31:41] Speaker A: Yes, so I find that most people that come to me have. They're in a slight, if not extreme, victim mentality. And I resonate very well with this. I've been there and I've did that work to come. And so they're victims of their situations and that's their entire story. Well, I can't do this because. Because this happened to me or I can't do this because of my situation. And so instead of coming from a different lens of this is all I have around me in this situation that can make work. They're focusing on the negative portion parts of their self. So we start to, to take the, take that down, take that little lens down a little bit to, to bring out a little bit more of the light. And it's a slow to slow process because we can't go in and say, oh, your, your life's amazing. Look at all these great things you have because you're still. If you have a still a dark cover over that, you're not going to be able to still see it. You're just moving that cover and it's coming right back. So we slowly move that cover away until it disappears.
Yeah.
[00:32:40] Speaker B: Okay.
Can you share any success stories from someone you've worked with that illustrates the power of healing.
[00:32:48] Speaker A: Oh my gosh. Yeah. See, make sure you anonymize it too.
Yeah, I'm trying to like which way I'm going to give a general because I don't like to talk too much about my clients because if they do happen to listen to my.
[00:32:59] Speaker B: Exactly.
[00:33:00] Speaker A: This is, this is me. Let's see. I have a client that.
Oh, wow. Yeah. So she, she had had a job, ended up getting laid off, found another job, and then in that time it Wasn't the right fit for her. But we manifested this job in. But she also had some healing to do on her own. And so after this time, we kind of separated ways. But she took all the modalities I had given her and over this past six months, has used them. And every time I talk to her, she has a shining, shining face on her. And it makes. This makes me so happy because, number one, she listened. She did the work, and then she took it when it was the hardest time in her life to start to make the changes and started to change and to do the work. And she did the work. I didn't do it. I just gave her the tools, but she actually did the work. And it's just such a beautiful process to see clients, just a transformation. I see with them, you know, over within 90 days, just to see the. The light, they start to smile a little more, like, come into the calls. You know, they're coming the calls really sad at first. And they start to come the calls like, all right, I got to buy three good things I'm going to tell because always make them tell me three good things at the very beginning. Here's my three good things that happened to me. And they. Instead of, like, having to reach for it, just like automatic comes off of their. Off of their mouth. Yeah, I love it.
[00:34:21] Speaker B: Nice. Nice. Yeah, that's. It'd be heartwarming to see the people change in the growth they go through, for sure.
[00:34:28] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:34:28] Speaker B: What advice would you give someone just beginning their healing journey?
[00:34:33] Speaker A: Stick with it. It's tough. It's not fun at first. And you're going to be like, why am I doing this? Just know that the more that you do it, the longer you do it. And just take the little baby steps. You don't have to be, I have to heal tomorrow. Take the first. The first little baby step that it is, it's waking up in the morning and just saying one great one thing. Grateful you're grateful for. That's one little baby step. Do that every morning. Start that. Start that for a month and just see how you start to feel. And then add a couple other things, like add two or three more gratitudes on it. Add a big stretch in the morning, put a smile on your face, give yourself a high five. I mean, all the things start to do. Just start to gradually build those up, and you're going to start to see the change. But the first state and the first you first start, it's tough. It is tough. And you're going to have so many People being like, why are you trying to do this? Why are you not your same self? Because they're so used to that and just let them be that way and just stick on the path and just make that decision and determination, the commitment to yourself that you're going to start to, to heal and change because you know at the end it's going to be worth it all.
[00:35:34] Speaker B: Nice.
Is there any other message that you'd like to share with the listeners? Maybe a question I didn't ask that you would have liked to have been asked.
[00:35:44] Speaker A: Oh man, I think you covered a lot. I would love to reiterate the, I just, I like to reiterate the self worth thing of finding the true self worth of within yourself and to. If you can slowly start to detach yourself from, from any material things, anything outside of the world that's not always already inside of you, of who your true nature and being is, you can attach yourself to trying to make everyone else happy. You can attach yourself to how other people feel about you and find your true worth is completely in love and kindness and peace and light. Then you're going to come into your true self and it's not going to matter that people don't like you. It's not going to matter if you lose your job, it's not going to matter if you go bankrupt, it's not going to matter. All this stuff that's not going to matter.
It's going to matter. It's not going to matter to the extent of your inner pe, your inner, your worth. You'll be like, we know what, I'm still worthy of this and I'm going to pick myself back up and keep going.
[00:36:42] Speaker B: Yeah, that's a good reframe for sure.
How can my listeners connect with you and learn more about your work as a transformational coach?
[00:36:50] Speaker A: Yeah, so my website's the best way. Alicia faricelli.com A L I C I A F A R R I C I E L L I dot com. There's a button at the top that says book a free consult. So book there's up to Talk up to 60 minutes and if you just need having a bad day, you need to talk to someone, please just you know, give me a schedule that consultation we'll go through kind of what you're dealing with. I'll give you some tips and things to walk away with. And of course if you want to work with me one on one coaching. I have a couple spots available as we're recording this now. So I would absolutely Love to chat with you. And of course, I'm on almost the social media. It's just not Twitter or X or whatever it is now.
[00:37:32] Speaker B: Okay, well, thank you so much for coming on the show and sharing your understanding of your own inner child transformation and sharing your story with us. Alicia, it's been a pleasure.
[00:37:42] Speaker A: Thank you so much.
[00:37:44] Speaker B: All right, then, I'll just say goodbye to the listeners.
As you can tell by how quickly that episode went, we packed in a lot of information very densely. And that happens when we have. Often I find what happens when we have people that are very high functioning and very energetic. So all power to Alicia and the work that she's doing. It's really important that people find a way to discover healing themselves through their inner child work. So I really appreciate her sharing today and I think that, yeah, this work is important.
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